You can file this post under "advanced", because until you have years of solid experience under your belt dealing with women, and understanding their moods on the fly, you will do horrible at trying to implement this strategy. This one is for real players only, who can instantly recognize where a woman is at on the emotional spectrum. This post is going to clear up a lot of the confusion about negging women.
In The Venusian Arts Handbook, I believe Mystery states that you should neg the hottest girls really hard, and to not neg the cute or average girls at all. Although he is right about a lot of things in his handbook, I disagree with his looks-based negging strategy. One of the insights that I had over the weekend, was that it has NOTHING to do with how hot the girl is; it has to do with her mood, or wherever she is at on the emotional spectrum.
You already know that I do mostly direct game on women who seem to be bored or standing around doing nothing. You also know that I STRONGLY advise against negging these girls. You don't need to neg them, and you might just piss them off. It doesn't matter how hot these girls are.
Now let's look at the girls that are having the time of their lives, dancing, and being really loud and animated. You can tease these girls, and it will work to your advantage. Nine times out of ten, you're going to get away with it. But why is this? Why is it that this works on one type of girl, and not the other, yet have nothing to do with her physical appearances?
Over the years, what I've slowly come to notice, is that no matter what a girl looks like if she is in a sad or neutral state, if you neg her, she will HATE you, and not in a good way. Chances are, it's going to repel her, and you're going to lose her. But if she is in a happy high energy mood, you can tease her all you want, it will grab her attention in a good way, and actually attract her to you. In principle, you are doing the same exact thing, yet getting completely opposite results.
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Getting back to the part where it doesn't matter what the girl looks like. Think about a hot girl that is in a loud bar on a busy night getting all kinds of attention. If you neg or tease her, you will grab her attention immediately. Now take that same girl, and place her in a quiet bar where she most likely won't be as energetic and not getting as much attention. If you neg or tease her, she will immediately turn her attention away from you.
As you can see, a woman's mood/emotional level is the true determinant of if you should neg/tease her or not, and not her actual level of physical attractiveness. When she is not in the greatest mood and not having a lot of fun, she wants your attention and doesn't want you to tease her. However, if she is on an emotional high, and having a lot of fun, it's almost as if she wants you to tease her and bring her down a notch. There is an equalizing process--based purely on her mood or energy level--that needs to take place in order to maintain her attention.
The above explains why you can go direct with a hot girl one night and have great success, and then on another night, it seems as though it isn't working on another. The same goes for if you tease or neg a hot girl one night and have great success, and then on another night, it seems as though another hot girl is ready to rip your head off.
Go out and try this. Pick out a bored hot girl, neg or tease her and see how she responds. And then pick out another bored hot girl, and go strictly direct, not teasing or negging her at all. I guarantee you that in the second scenario, your set goes much better than the first scenario. Now pick out a high energy hot girl that looks like she is having a blast, neg or tease her and see how she responds. And then pick out another high energy hot girl that looks like she is having a blast, and go strictly direct, not teasing or negging at all. I guarantee that this time, the first scenario goes much better than it does in the second scenario.
You will see that I am absolutely right on this, and the issue of whether you should tease/neg or not has absolutely nothing to do with a woman's looks, and it has everything to do with a woman's mood (look for the clues that she's expressing). If you feel like you are experienced enough, this is one of the most useful bits of knowledge that you can start applying to your game.
I feel like doing another post about how to dress to attract mature women. Today, while I was out running errands, yet another girl tried talking to me. I don't go out during the day a lot, but it seems like every other time I go out, a girl ends up staring me down, or tries to talk to me. I already told you guys that I believe I am a "7" in the face, so why is it that mature women keep trying to talk to me? The way I dress.
In the Midwest, NO ONE has any real kind of fashion sense, so a guy that dresses "normal" in NYC or LA, can come here and look like a superstar. I don't buy terribly expensive clothes, and I've never owned anything Gucci, Louis Vutton, or any of that fancy stuff. I simply buy things that are a little more expensive than what the ordinary person would wear, and I completely overhaul my wardrobe at least twice a year, which ensures that I always look fresh.
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Here in the Midwest, no one is really buying anything fancier than Abercrombie or American Eagle. In essence, if you go one step above that, you'll already be dressed better than most Midwestern American men. That, and a lot of these guys hold on to stuff for YEARS, which means not only do their clothes look ragged and worn, but their clothes also look out of date when compared to someone that has an up to date wardrobe.
As a player, the vast majority of your disposable player income should go straight into your clothing and appearances, as they are the first thing a woman sees, and the way you look tells a woman a lot about you. Mature women will either talk to you, or dismiss you based on your appearances alone. If you don't have the right look, a woman won't even try to hear what you have to say, especially when you go to these superficial type nightclubs.
Alright, let's move on to my specific style. There is one big DON'T when it comes to my fashion, and that big don't is don't wear earthy colors. Earthy colors are boring, drab, and makes you look like an old man. I don't care how good the graphic design on the t-shirt is, STAY AWAY FROM EARTHY COLORS, which include colors like jungle green, brown, tan, and burnt orange.
What are good colors? Black is always good. Grey can sometimes look good if you're wearing mostly black. Bright colors are really good for getting noticed by mature women. Personally, I think the best look is bright colors on a black t-shirt. I tend to stay away from white unless I'm wearing a jacket over it. Why? Because one little stain, and the garment is ruined for the entire time you're out.
The above comments are based on how mature women react to the various items I wear. One other thing that I noticed, is that mature women respond best to one specific type of t-shirt: t-shirts with faces and people as part of the design. I don't know why this is, but every time I wear a t-shirt with a big face or a person as the focal point of the design, at least one woman comments on it.
One thing that I don't understand, is why most of you guys dress the way you do. It's just very boring and non-creative. Why are you not emulating the guys that mature women go crazy for, most namely rockstars and douchebags? Instead, you dress like little conservative American boys. Like it or not, young mature women love the rockstar and douchebag looks.
If you ever have any doubt about how to dress, just remember one word: FLASH. Flash will get you a ton of attention from mature women. I don't mean dress in a way that is going to get you weird looks from people wondering what the hell is wrong with you. I mean dress in a way that is socially acceptable, but just really flashy. Seven watches on your arm? Weird. One really flashy watch? Hot. L.E.D. across your belt or shirt? Weird. Detailed shiny belt buckle and detailed belt? Hot. You get the idea. You don't have to dress like a socially inept weirdo in order to get the attention of mature women.
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You see the top guys and you wonder how they got so good. I don't know what they did, but what I can tell you, is how I eventually become one of the top guys in whatever I decide to commit myself to. Is it by reading books and studying? Not really, no. Although reading and studying help, they aren't what's going to make you a top guy in your field. Is it by mindlessly experimenting? No. Although you can learn interesting insights here and there, experimenting isn't what's going to make you the best, at least not at a reasonable pace.
Then what is it that I do? I simply find the best guy that I can, and continuously tell myself that I am better than him. Most men see a guy that is really good, and all they do is admire him, or they keep telling themselves that they will never be as good as him. If you were to ask me who is better than me, I'd tell you NO ONE. I am the best. Period. End of story.
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Of course, simply telling yourself that isn't going to accomplish your goal of being the best. However, what it does do, is set you into action to constantly improve yourself until you are actually the best. When you take the loser approach of telling yourself that you can never be as good as whoever is at the top, you set yourself up to be a loser that will never be at the top. Why? Because you have grown comfortable with the idea being a loser.
But how do you actually improve to be the best at the fastest pace possible? It's very simple. You simply emulate whoever is the best, and when you feel like you are finally on par with him, you exceed him in every way possible. You don't have to do everything at once, but you can do it part by part. When you try to do everything at once, you risk overwhelming yourself and giving up.
I'll give you a few examples that are related to seduction. Find the best dresser in your area, and dress as he does. Then find the guy that seems to be the best at approaching mature women, and then mimic his approach. Then find the best conversationalist, and mimic his conversational style. And finally pay attention to the guy that seems to be getting the most lays, and then mimic how he closes.
Nine times out of ten, there will be no one guy that possesses all of these traits. For instance, the guy that gets the most lays, might have absolute shit game when it comes to approaching mature women. However, he might be a part of a privileged social circle where he just happens to be around a lot of mature women at parties and late night afterhours events. He may very well simply be the guy that is alone with these girls late at night, have a lot of rapport with them because he is a part of their privileged circle of friends, and knows how to get them from the after hours spot to his house really well.
There may also be a guy that is absolute shit at getting laid. However, he may be a really good conversationalist that mature women love talking to, but don't want to fuck because he's not aggressive enough. Do you see where I'm going with this? Pick out a guy's best traits, and then mimic whatever he is doing. Do this guy by guy, and soon you will be the best in your field by default. And from here you can create even more distance between you and second best by improving on the guys you mimicked by experimenting.